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I was bidding in a past API online auction, just doing my part to help API support more families. Ok, ok, truth be told, supporting my favorite cause (API) was the perfect reason for me to bid (shop!) for things I might not ordinarily even think about.
I got some great items and gifts, but maybe you can imagine my surprise when I actually won an exotic trip.
I hadn’t expected to win, so I immediately went into parent-mode, wondering all manner of things like: was it even possible to attempt? How would the kids deal with such a long and exotic trip? How would the sleeping arrangements work? What was the food like? Were there enough family activities to keep everyone happy? In other words, how much work would this be for me? Would I get to relax or would I be in constant “management mode?”
My husband and I aren’t the types to lounge all day at the spa while the kids hang out in the kid’s “club,” but the kids weren’t old enough to do significant, all-day adventures either. How would this trip work out?
As it turned out, the planning, the travel itself and the destination were the stuff of legend and lore. We’ll never stop talking about the adventures.
Our top five “GOATs” (greatest of all time):
  1. Roosters really are effective alarm clocks!
  2. Nature’s beauty absolutely melts minor discomforts and complaints
  3. GPS isn’t always helpful or necessary
  4. It’s always good to get really clear about the complete and specific conditions of each family member’s ability to enjoy boating BEFORE setting out on a boat!
  5. Getting out of our usual places and routines allows new adventures and stronger bonds to form
Tomorrow, API is auctioning seven more amazing trips like the one my family took.
The destinations seem even more incredible and the details provided allow families to pick and choose what works best. Parents will really get to relax.
Be sure to look these trips over and plan to take advantage of this fleeting family time. Say YES! to these trips as experiences that become special memories.
Bid on ebay starting tomorrow, March 21 – 31. Ask friends and family to join in and make it a celebration.
Get ready to relax, enjoy your family and help support other families at the same time. Don’t let the sun go down on these great trips.
Proceeds for this auction will be used to support parents, children and families with free support groups, research-based materials, leader training, resources and technologies through Attachment Parenting International. Open to API registered state residents in Tennessee, Georgia, South Carolina, Iowa, Indiana, New York, California, Florida, Louisiana, Missouri, and Texas. 
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By Alexis Schrader

Again and again the articles pop up in parenting magazines and blogs- sleep training your baby is fine, they say, because there is no proven medical harm. While you can point to studies’ failed methodology (http://evolutionaryparenting.com/no-stress-in-sleep-training-a-response/), and argue that other studies (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/moral-landscapes/201112/dangers-crying-it-out)  and medical associations (https://www.aaimhi.org/key-issues/position-statements-and-guidelines/AAIMHI-Position-paper-1-Controlled-crying.pdf) say otherwise, I don’t bother. The truth is, there are so many articles out there, parents will always find something that says sleep training isn’t harmful if that’s what they want to do.

While I disagree that there’s no risk of harm, frankly I don’t care whether there is or not. Sleep training could be the safest thing in the world, but it’s still not how you treat a person. Especially a person you love, who is completely helpless without you, who didn’t ask for you to bring her into this world.

To quote my pediatrician friend, “if it’s not acceptable parenting during the day, it’s not acceptable parenting at night.” Crying is how babies communicate distress. We know that during the day. I don’t know a single person who thinks it’s ok to let a newborn cry for hours on end in the afternoon because the caregiver is tired. But parents proudly recount sleep training tales of babies crying for 3 hours straight like they are swapping war stories. In an article where a mother recounts locking her child in her room overnight (https://www.nytimes.com/2016/10/07/well/family/our-sleep-training-nightmare.html), she seems surprised that the locksmith showed no concern for the fact that he was installing a lock on the outside of a child’s bedroom. I worked with foster kids long enough to agree with the author- that should definitely raise alarm bells. But somehow it’s ok, because she was only going to use it at night.

The way you respond to your baby sets the tone for your relationship with your child. Ignoring their night time cries says to your child that your threshold for meeting their emotional needs is proven medical harm. Rather, be the type of parent who responds to your child’s distress, even when it would be easier not to. We create secure attachment when we show our babies that–even in the absence of quantifiable harm–they are our priority.

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The Science of Attachment Parenting

March 3, 2019
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By Judy Arnall What is the scientific purpose of attachment parenting? In short, attachment parenting provides the child stress relief. Every child experiences stress and it impacts the body by triggering a stress response. Emotions such as fear, loneliness, sadness, frustration and unhappiness are present in children as young as babyhood. Children’s response to those […]

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Some winning tips to connect and reconnect with children – at the holidays and all of the time

December 21, 2018
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Making time to share time and interests with your child refills the love-tank and lets you bounce back after struggles.  Small moments in every day, every week, keep us connected. Small moments mean the connections do not have to be complicated to be powerful; they can be something like: Stop and make eye contact over […]

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Celebrating and Navigating the Holidays

December 20, 2018
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This Attachment Parenting International post was compiled from some APtly Said contributions that help AP parents navigate holiday challenges in the midst of celebrations: co-sleeping while traveling, maintaining balance with so much going on, nurturing a new baby, and much more. Enjoy this helpful series and your holidays–and search APtly Said and AttachmentParenting.org for even more […]

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Love Collective—Sharing experience and making parenting sweeter

October 24, 2018
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Modern parenting is both dramatically different from just 10 years ago – and surprisingly unchanged over eons. What constitutes our “local” community has been slowly changing as the internet and other technologies have allowed us to become individual nomads. We regularly transplant ourselves outside of traditional, geographically convenient support networks. Online parenting resources help us […]

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Naming Changes and Changing Names this AP Month 2018!

October 6, 2018
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API is a hub of information and a community of support to advance Attachment Parenting practices–a collective advocating compassion. After nearly 25 years, API is expanding how it operates so that it can provide support and information to even more families. We will be sharing updates all month long and we invite you to join […]

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Welcome to AP Month 2018

October 1, 2018
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Welcome to AP Month 2018! This AP Month 2018 “Love Collective” theme reflects the possibilities we envision for Attachment Parenting in our society. Working as a collective–where we have a shared passion that we join together to address–is fitting for both AP Month 2018 and the new API we are excited to present. This month we […]

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